(including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were sore. We were "burned up."

On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with?

We were usually as definite as this example:

I'm resentful at:     The Cause            Affects my:Mr. Brown         His attention to my      Sex relations
                     wife.                 Self-esteem (fear)
                  Told my wife of my       Sex relations
                     mistress.             Self-esteem (fear)
                  Brown may get my job     Security
                    at the office.         Self-esteem (fear)Mrs. Jones        She's a nut -- she       Personal relation-
                     snubbed me.  She         ship. Self-esteem
                     committed her hus-       (fear)
                     band for drinking.
                     He's my friend
                     She's a gossip.My employer       Unreasonable -- Unjust   Self-esteem (fear)
                      -- Overbearing --       Security.
                     Threatens to fire
                     me for my drinking
                     and padding my
                     expense account.My wife           Misunderstands and       Pride -- Personal
                     nags.  Likes Brown.      sex relations --
                     Wants house put in       Security (fear)
                     her name. 

We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. When we were finished we considered it carefully. The first thing apparent